Having an opinion without offending

I’ve been trying to understand how answering a question without lying or maliciousness is wrong or politically incorrect. I’m a liberal, this is what I’m told we’re all about. Maybe the exception is when you say it on national TV. I don’t know, I have to toss that one around some more. It’s just such an answer that cost a woman a victory for Miss USA. Regardless of where you stand on this, an opinion is still an opinion. Somehow I can’t bring myself to put a gun to a person’s head when I ask their opinion on something. I’m old-fashioned, I want a direct answer, you don’t have to agree with me or say something you anticipate I will like. Yet pageant judge no. 8, Perez Hilton, feels differently and that my friends is dead wrong.

Toward the end of the booty contest Perez rose his behind up and asked: what eventually became a loaded question: "Vermont recently became the 4^th state to legalize same-sex marriage. Do you think that every state should follow suit, why or why not?" OK honest enough question and a valid concern of Hilton-an openly gay blogger-who held his head down in disappointment when the young hopeful Carrie Prejean actually gave him an answer to his question: "Well I think it’s great that Americans are able to choose one way or the other. We live in a land where you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite marriage. You know what, in my country, in my family, I do believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman, no offense to anybody out there, but that’s how I was raised and I believe it should be between a man and a woman."

This is a perfectly valid response to the question asked of her. It would be arrogant of me to tell Perez or any gay that was offended how to feel or act when it comes to hatred against them. Prejean wasn’t expressing hate, nor condescension, and most importantly no evasiveness. She gave an answer acknowledging she was aware of the current climate on gay unions, and then gave an opinion based upon her upbringing. Was Perez about to handle an honest answer? No. Did you really expect him to? He expressed outrage, venomous outrage. On a follow-up YouTube video he fired away: "She gave the worst answer in Pageant history," completely forgetting the worst answer in pageant history was the official who said yes when he asked to be judge. He followed this up with the worst lie in pageant history since "she enjoys horseback riding:" "Let me explain to you, she lost not because she doesn’t believe in gay marriage, she lost because she’s a dumb b**ch."

Why do I get the feeling (in spite of his claim that if she said ‘that’s for the states to decide’ he would have been fine with that) Hilton would have rejected any answer other than a blatant pro-gay endorsement? My advice to Hilton is to grow up. Had she said "Read Leviticus, next question please," now... well actually that would have been a pretty good answer too. Calling Ms. Prejean a "dumb b**ch" for answering a question you yourself posed to her, doesn’t do anything but betray your selective contempt for the Constitution. And the lawsuit from her that you so sorely deserve.

The real in-your-face kicker is, the fact that a gay male can be a judge in a contest for a gender he obviously harbors some misogynistic feelings for is a cause for concern anyway. How can you judge something you have no love or sexual attraction for? And don’t get me wrong, I used to watch Miss America, Miss Black America, Miss Universe and Miss USA back in the day, those were some fine women. But if this continues, I shutter to think what beauty pageant contestants will look like years from now. Trust me they won’t be pretty. Miss California 2019 stands to look sickly, skeletal, and anorexic. For a preview today just take a peep at another commercial enterprise prominently displaying women; the modeling industry. Gays are now said to be in total control, and it shows, the last decade or so have seen a transition from Supermodels to a new crop of women who look like pubescent boys.

The problem is we live in a world where more people are refusing to be what they were designed to be. We’ve become rights-addicts. In the morning every person gay or straight wakes up to the sunrise. We rightfully don’t expect the sun to come up missing and then say ‘I want the be like the moon and just come out at night, or I want some rings around me so I can hang out with Saturn. If this happened we’d be in big trouble wouldn’t we? Yet and still more of us humans continue to refuse our gender-job-description and dare others to disagree. Like Mr. Perez Hilton we have become one-man or one-woman cults that in some cases cause us to become Me-Insurgents, not accepting any difference of opinion until we snap.

What is important about Miss Prejean is I sensed in her, what many of us claim we want, but really don’t understand; a combination of freedom of speech and respect. She may have given up her crown due to suspiciously sudden partial-nude pictures, but I wish they could all be like Miss California, and just tactfully tell what they really think.