A new book by Adolphus Ethienne asks readers: What’s love got to do with it? -The true story of how one man followed the rules of love and discovered something he didn’t expect.
With the divorce rate over 50 percent, people choosing to remain single and the decline of strong relationships, if you think that following the rules of relationship building and love would yield positive results – guess again. Adolphus Ethienne’s real life experience with the ‘woman of his dreams’ turned into the kind of a nightmare fit for the silver screen.
In his new autobiography, Destruction of a Vain Woman, Ethienne shares the story of a real estate developer with wealth and prestige who falls into a trap when swept away by a beautiful woman. On the outside, his new love interest has it all – beauty, charming personality, spontaneity, and sexual appeal. Underneath it all though, Ethienne soon discovered the ugly truth about his lover – the devil really does wear Prada.
Taking place on the beautiful Caribbean island of Grenada, Ethienne’s story chronicles his actual account meeting a woman by the name of Kellyanne Bu who turns out to be less than who she pretended to be. Ethienne’s desire for love, led him to trust and give to his new partner all that he believed she was missing, including the respect and honor she didn’t get from other men.
He followed the rules of love – sharing, prioritizing, committing, communicating, and supporting his woman. Ethienne gave to her only to realize that she was never satisfied nor had the capacity to give in return to him what he expected – respect and loyalty. He received neither, but in return was left heartbroken, taken for money and embarrassed.
"Through my own experience," Ethienne says, "I began to examine what draws us to certain people as potential lovers. I saw that some people have an intense love connection that others can’t save themselves from and struggle with and others are attracted to certain partners knowing they don’t have that intense connection with. My own heartache and shame in falling for a woman like Kellyanne got me to thinking about how much we base love’s connection on looks, knowledge, speech, materials, and the right circumstances."
Destruction of a Vain Woman
offers a practical approach for choosing a potential mate. Rather then putting so much emphasis on the superficial things we desire, Ethienne points out that those must be attained and fulfilled by you first rather than expecting someone else to fulfill them.
"Even with money, patience, environment, love and belief in the human spirit, those are not enough to preclude change. Essentially a person will only change if it’s either to their advantage or they genuinely want to change. Love and money alone are insufficient. That change has to begin with you first before you can ask it of someone else," adds Ethienne.
Destruction of a Vain Woman
is a compelling look and life-changing lesson on what goes wrong when we think as long as you have love, all else will be fine. Ethienne feels so strongly about getting his message out that he will donate $2.00 to the United Nations Care Fund and Grenada Child Welfare Authority for every book sold.